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Old 10-20-2019, 06:40 AM   #11
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But what really grinds my gears even more is when someone says they could never understand something. Usually it stems from laziness and not wanting to have to deal with it. Other times it is older women who grew up in a time when "Men do that sort of thing" was prevalent.
That learned helplessness bothers me too, and I think that they're pathetic really, but I stop short at getting upset with them. I've had times where I've tried to explain simple things to people to help save them some money, usually the elderly who I have a soft spot for, and they just have themselves convincved that they can't handle it, so I back off. They are willing to pay me to do it, then so be it, at least I tried. I get some satisfaction knowing that they were lucky that they got me that day, instead of some guy who would have taken advantage of their ignorance and screwed them by convincing them that they needed something much more than they do.

What gets me is when I go into a home and the elderly owner can't understand a simple concept that I'm trying to help them with, but then I see an adult son living there, in the middle of the day watching TV or playing video games. I offer to show him, and more often than not, he has no interest in even trying, since mom or dad will pay the bill. Maybe I'm just too harsh. Maybe all these guys work 3rd shift. Not.

I chuckle at the "let me check with my husband" women. Makes me happy that not every one is a MeToo lunatic.
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Old 10-20-2019, 09:07 AM   #12
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That learned helplessness bothers me too, and I think that they're pathetic really, but I stop short at getting upset with them. I've had times where I've tried to explain simple things to people to help save them some money, usually the elderly who I have a soft spot for, and they just have themselves convincved that they can't handle it, so I back off. They are willing to pay me to do it, then so be it, at least I tried. I get some satisfaction knowing that they were lucky that they got me that day, instead of some guy who would have taken advantage of their ignorance and screwed them by convincing them that they needed something much more than they do.

What gets me is when I go into a home and the elderly owner can't understand a simple concept that I'm trying to help them with, but then I see an adult son living there, in the middle of the day watching TV or playing video games. I offer to show him, and more often than not, he has no interest in even trying, since mom or dad will pay the bill. Maybe I'm just too harsh. Maybe all these guys work 3rd shift. Not.

I chuckle at the "let me check with my husband" women. Makes me happy that not every one is a MeToo lunatic.



I am not talking about the elderly. Like 10 days ago I got a call for a clogged drain at a dentists office. I knew immediately it would be the rework station, I was right. The liner for the drum trap had never been changed and was filled with plaster up to the top. Aside from the dentist/orthodontist, this place was all women.



I go speak with the roughly 50yr old receptionist, ~300-320lbs. Now I don't like to fat shame because I am fat too, 270+lbs, and at one point over 300lbs. If someone wants to be fat it's a free country and frankly many people are fat against their own will and it can be a harsh, recursive cycle. That all aside, she seemed to fall into the former category and did not seem very motivated. I was proven right when I explained the situation and how the liner needed to be changed every three months. Her response, "In a place like this with all women things like that don't get done.". I was not amused. That answer was pure laziness and an excuse to not get off her 40" wide azz. She was also denigrating 50% of the population just to make that excuse.


I take issue with your last statement. I have just as many men check with their wives as vice versa. Just because a woman acts as a good partner and checks with her husband does not mean she is subservient. Likewise, women who don't check with their husbands are not "MeToo Lunatics".








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Old 10-20-2019, 12:51 PM   #13
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There are several scenarios to the check with spouse routine. It is the obvious subservient ones that I chuckle at, poor things. Same with the husbands who don't have the balls to tell me no themselves. Sure, there are some equal partnerships, but IMO many of those are excuses from a wimp, of either sex.

Are there some MeTooers and Time Uppers who have had diificult situations? Sure there are, but many, IMO, are just hysterical ninnies jumping on the band wagon because politicians, schools and the media give them attention, same as the perpetually offended, the racially oppressed and the micro-aggressed warriors.

Your receptionist example, she gets charged top dollar, and I do everything that can be justified as needed. Not because she plays the woman card, but because she's lazy and doesn't give a schit. It's not my fault that she denegrates her sex, and I can't feel bad about it. White guilt has now progressed to male guilt. Not for me.
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..... but many, IMO, are just hysterical ninnies jumping on the band wagon because politicians, schools and the media give them attention, same as the perpetually offended, the racially oppressed.......

Your receptionist example, she gets charged top dollar, and I do everything that can be justified as needed. Not because she plays the woman card, but because she's lazy and doesn't give a schit. It's not my fault that she denegrates her sex, and I can't feel bad about it. White guilt has now progressed to male guilt. Not for me.



First off, racial oppression is a real, huge issue, I have seen it take many forms that were impossible to outlaw. You simply can't legislate in a way that stops racism from being an issue.


Second, this wasn't a situation where we could just do it for them and charge them the pita fee. They require special liners for that drum trap from their dental equipment supplier. This woman was flat out refusing to perform her job properly and using the other good employees as an excuse while degenerating them as well. Saying women are inferior to men in such a way that they can't change a glorified trash bag is just as bad as saying blacks should be slaves. I took offense to that as a member of the human race.



No white male guilt here. I just see the world and those in it for what they are and what they pretend to be. I have had the race card falsely thrown in my face before. I have also met hundreds who ignore the racism and discrimination sent there way and do what they can to get ahead in life.


















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..... but many, IMO, are just hysterical ninnies jumping on the band wagon because politicians, schools and the media give them attention, same as the perpetually offended, the racially oppressed.......

Your receptionist example, she gets charged top dollar, and I do everything that can be justified as needed. Not because she plays the woman card, but because she's lazy and doesn't give a schit. It's not my fault that she denegrates her sex, and I can't feel bad about it. White guilt has now progressed to male guilt. Not for me.



First off, racial oppression is a real, huge issue, I have seen it take many forms that were impossible to outlaw. You simply can't legislate in a way that stops racism from being an issue.


Second, this wasn't a situation where we could just do it for them and charge them the pita fee. They require special liners for that drum trap from their dental equipment supplier. This woman was flat out refusing to perform her job properly and using the other good employees as an excuse while degenerating them as well. Saying women are inferior to men in such a way that they can't change a glorified trash bag is just as bad as saying blacks should be slaves. I took offense to that as a member of the human race.



No white male guilt here. I just see the world and those in it for what they are and what they pretend to be. I have had the race card falsely thrown in my face before. I have also met hundreds who ignore the racism and discrimination sent there way and do what they can to get ahead in life.


















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There are several scenarios to the check with spouse routine. It is the obvious subservient ones that I chuckle at, poor things. Same with the husbands who don't have the balls to tell me no themselves. Sure, there are some equal partnerships, but IMO many of those are excuses from a wimp, of either sex.

Are there some MeTooers and Time Uppers who have had diificult situations? Sure there are, but many, IMO, are just hysterical ninnies jumping on the band wagon because politicians, schools and the media give them attention, same as the perpetually offended, the racially oppressed and the micro-aggressed warriors.

Your receptionist example, she gets charged top dollar, and I do everything that can be justified as needed. Not because she plays the woman card, but because she's lazy and doesn't give a schit. It's not my fault that she denegrates her sex, and I can't feel bad about it. White guilt has now progressed to male guilt. Not for me.
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I'm not saying that racism, sexism and whatever other discrimination ism you want to find do not exist, are not bad and have not caused immeasurable harm to so many people. It's just that there are so many people today who trivialize them as a means to get away with so much schitt. The media and the government promote and encourage that kind of behavior. You can't open your mouth anymore with the most innocent comment without someone becoming offended, just to get attention.

A guy puts on a dress and says he now identifies as a woman and he gets awards for being a hero, while a woman who does something a little bit sleazy and underhanded, but doesn't really do any major damage to anyone else, to get her daughter into a better college, she goes to jail. The world is seriously phucked up.

Say what you want, but studies have shown beyond a shadow of a doubt that the prisons are composed of almost all people who come from broken homes, having been raised by a single parent, usually without the father being involved in their lives in a meaningful way. Yet even so, single motherhood is praised today. There is a lot that was wrong with 1950s values and ideals, but so much that was also right. Traditional family roles and keeping with your own kind were two things that worked, period. They are what made this country great.

Get 10 white, heterosexual, middle class American guys together and see how difficult it is for everyone to agree and get along in a majority of areas, Now throw in others of diverse backgrounds and see if it gets any easier. This diversity just for the sake of diversity is bull schitt. It is tearing apart Europe, and this country too.


I take everyone as they come, I really do, and I don't care for the most part who does or believes what, until they expect me to not only accept their differences, but embrace them and make their ideals mine, or worse, expose them to my children.
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I'm not saying that racism, sexism and whatever other discrimination ism you want to find do not exist, are not bad and have not caused immeasurable harm to so many people. It's just that there are so many people today who trivialize them as a means to get away with so much schitt. The media and the government promote and encourage that kind of behavior. You can't open your mouth anymore with the most innocent comment without someone becoming offended, just to get attention.

A guy puts on a dress and says he now identifies as a woman and he gets awards for being a hero, while a woman who does something a little bit sleazy and underhanded, but doesn't really do any major damage to anyone else, to get her daughter into a better college, she goes to jail. The world is seriously phucked up.

Say what you want, but studies have shown beyond a shadow of a doubt that the prisons are composed of almost all people who come from broken homes, having been raised by a single parent, usually without the father being involved in their lives in a meaningful way. Yet even so, single motherhood is praised today. There is a lot that was wrong with 1950s values and ideals, but so much that was also right. Traditional family roles and keeping with your own kind were two things that worked, period. They are what made this country great.

Get 10 white, heterosexual, middle class American guys together and see how difficult it is for everyone to agree and get along in a majority of areas, Now throw in others of diverse backgrounds and see if it gets any easier. This diversity just for the sake of diversity is bull schitt. It is tearing apart Europe, and this country too.


I take everyone as they come, I really do, and I don't care for the most part who does or believes what, until they expect me to not only accept their differences, but embrace them and make their ideals mine, or worse, expose them to my children.



Each paragraph is color coded to match the statements it is responding too. Also, I like rainbows just cuz they look cool although I also support the lgbt movement.




I think you're misinterpreting many of those types of situations. I don't think that the are people who have the sly incling to immediately pretend to be offended and then use social media to exploit. That is cunning. I think they are just stupid. They are offended and always have been, whether justly or not, but now that social media is a thing they are able to scream it out to everyone and get the attention they still would have seeked 20-30 years ago before the internet.


Both of those scenarios are wrong. Labeling Kylie Jenner woman of the year was abhorent and afront to all strong willed women. I believe that it is possible for someone to "Mentally be female" whilst having been born anatomically male. Knowing what I have learned about the incredibly complex human brain it doesn't surprise me. But for phocks sake call it for what it is. You do both sets of people a disservice by lumping them together. I know that Kylie Jenner went through her own personal hell but that doesn't change the FACTS. A person born as an anatomical male who then transitions to being female is not, and can not be the same as someone born female.


Again I think you're conflating two different scenarios. The single mothers who are praised are not the ones who raise children who turn into criminals. It seems logical that any child who is left to their own devices because their only parent is working will go wild and commit crimes. My parents split when I was young and I could easily see my life having gone a different way. Also, I think most of what you perceiving as praise is merely pitty and respect being shown to single parents who are in a very difficult scenario. I know many successful single moms who deserve praise and have done very well. I also know many who got pregnant in high school and are drug addicts who keep having children that get taken away. They are not one in the same. No one that I know of is suggesting that having a single parent is better than two.


The declaration and the constitution were both written by white males who had a clear sense of moral value. We still had to write amendments stating that slavery isn't okay and that all races should have the right to vote. It's not diversity for the sake of diversity. At the least it stops people from saying they weren't represented. Would a farmer be okay with the city folk telling him what he can and can't do with his land? No taxation without representation. Racism and prejudices of all kinds are more easily defeated when people from all walks of life are included. Get ten white males in a room and statistically one or two are bound to be racist. Having a black guy in the room would help guard against a racist aspect of a policy being put in place.


I wholly agree with you on that last point, as long as we agree that scientifically proven facts are not ideals and that they are just as educationally basic as reading and writing.












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the bottom line is this country and the worlds values have been so warped left by a certain group everyone tries to jump on the butt hurt express because they might get some free stuff.....the Dumbing of the world...
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What gets me is when I go into a home and the elderly owner can't understand a simple concept that I'm trying to help them with, but then I see an adult son living there, in the middle of the day watching TV or playing video games. I offer to show him, and more often than not, he has no interest in even trying, since mom or dad will pay the bill. Maybe I'm just too harsh. Maybe all these guys work 3rd shift. Not.
What I do for entertainment is when I see an adult son that clearly doesn’t have a job and is living with his parents is this. During the normal conversation I find a way to ask, “so, what does your son do for a living”. It’s fun to see the look of shame in their face as they start making excuses for him not supporting himself and how they are enabling him.
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